Hot v Attractive

When addressing our young people on the benefits of abstinence, part of my healthy message on sexual integrity is rooted in how we view each other as men and women.  Pornography and the practice of sexting are cause for the development of an extremely distorted viewpoint of authentic womanhood and manhood.  They create a users’ mentality in which the only purpose for a woman or man is to be physically flawless like all the airbrush models in the magazines and internet websites.  Beyond this how young people choose to dress and carry themselves directly impacts how the opposite sex views them.  If a young lady chooses to dress immodestly she radiates a certain message about herself whether she intends to or not.  I strive to educate young people on the importance of respect – respect for oneself and other people.  Dressing immodestly typically creates a reaction from the opposite sex in which the individual is viewed as “hot”, which ultimately reduces him/her to an object that can be bought, sold and used like most things from the corner store.  Contrast that with the notion of viewing someone from the opposite sex as “attractive” which elevates her/him to something that should be treasured.   It is not my desire to have young people walking around town in burlap sacks covered from head-to-toe.  It is possible for a young person to dress with a sense of modesty that is very hip, stylish and attractive.  As we enter the season for proms, graduations and Spring celebrations please continue to lift our teens and young adults up in prayer!

Keep it smooth,

Brad